Sunday, January 3, 2010

Guess who has the internet back!

This is not an attack on my parents. Its a message of hope and support for those hurting.

I am reminded of an recent conversation with my dad about my career choices. Of course every parent has expectations of their child's abilities and future, and sometimes we never meet their expectations. Many parents are disgusted and let their child know that the decisions they make are not wise and they really are a burden. Some parents continue to ridicule their child despite their success and happiness. I cannot begin to explain how much it hurts and can cause damage to many kids really trying to find their place in this world. I know to many people like that.

My parents have been disappointed in my abilities and failures. It sucks I am still unemployed and need their help. At the age of 26 I should be making bank by now, but that's not the case.

My parents have bended backwards for me because of my failures and at times not really encouraging. I remember my dad at times would suggest I do the military. I actually tried then gave up because I was spending too much time getting ready and was very unhappy.

But all that changed, my dad called me up and apologized to me for not supporting me with my careers and unemployment. He apologized for not encouraging and lifting me up. He helped me financially, but that was the only piece of the pie. I need the encouragement and love to really get me through this. My dad said he repented of his selfishness and his expectations, and was sorry for not really looking at how God was using me. I appreciated that, in fact, I cried. I did not expect that, nor did I realize that was happening this whole time.

My dad believes and knows God is doing something in my life. The path is not clear yet, but ever day is a new revelation and a new journey, and my dad knows I am on to something. He has offered to make the down payment for my teaching certification. Not because I am poor and unemployed. But because he knows God has big plans for me and my dad is seeing my abilities now.

I know there are a lot of people out there in the same boat that I am in, looking for support from their loved ones with the decisions they made. You at times feel you have to do what makes you happy and comfortable, even if people don't approve of it.

Maybe you changed careers, picked up a new habit, or changed your lifestyle. Whatever it is, I pray you remember that you parents still love you and will always be hard on you. The reason why, because they are your parents. But just remember sometimes their lack of support and ridicule is a hard way of showing you love. We are not children forever and for some parents is hard to lose their child due to adulthood.

How about some of your friends? Maybe you don't support decisions some of your friends make. There are friends of mine who have made decisions I don't support. I can't change them or get them to listen to me. But the biggest thing I can do is love them and continue to love them. Love is the biggest support Christ gave to his people. We are all sinners and have fallen short of the glory of God. But its amazing we can still be scum of the Earth and God will still give us that huge hug. All He ask in return is a relationship. For some people opening up that part is embarrassing and hard especially with what we are struggling with, but its amazing God overlooks at all and just says "You are a blessing, take a walk with me."

I am servant, friend, future teacher, church marketer, media techie, and son. My parents love me and my God loves me. I have a great family.

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